Dating a man who was emotionally abused
She mocks him when he tells a story that might make him look good, and finishes his jokes for him. When the man tries to speak, he is cut off by his girlfriend.They didn't learn healthy coping mechanisms or how to have positive, healthy relationships.Instead, they feel angry, hurt, fearful and powerless. They play the victim and try to deflect blame to you rather than taking personal responsibility. They disengage or use neglect or abandonment to punish or frighten you. They don't seem to notice or care about your feelings. They view you as an extension of themselves rather than as an individual. They withhold sex as a way to manipulate and control. They share personal information about you with others. They invalidate or deny their emotionally abusive behavior when confronted. They make subtle threats or negative remarks with the intent to frighten or control you.You simply can't allow it to continue, even if it means ending the relationship.
Emotional abuse is used to control and dominate the other person, and quite often it occurs because the abuser has childhood wounds and insecurities they haven't dealt with — perhaps as a result of being abused themselves.
This is the first step toward rebuilding your self-esteem. Talk to trusted friends and family or a counselor about what you are going through.